tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7557679011566521438.post1844640076986789090..comments2023-11-03T07:59:43.899-07:00Comments on The Great Big IF...: Charmed, I'm SureShelbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06085283320884411888noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7557679011566521438.post-76112085933131764372008-09-25T20:12:00.000-07:002008-09-25T20:12:00.000-07:00I'm sorry that some people just don't get it.On a ...I'm sorry that some people just don't get it.<BR/><BR/>On a lighter note, I can so relate to the "ideas in the shower" thing. It's become a bit of a joke between my BFF and I - when I'm stuck on something she'll ask if I need to take a shower... it really can help you focus.CappyPrincesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00586871115485250280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7557679011566521438.post-718756497912325072008-09-24T18:28:00.000-07:002008-09-24T18:28:00.000-07:00People say the dumbest things.Like you said, all t...People say the dumbest things.<BR/><BR/>Like you said, all they need to do is say, "sorry" or give you a hug.<BR/><BR/>Instead they try to say something to make themselves feel better. And end up hurting the one who is already hurting.<BR/><BR/>...ICLWPhotogrlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13709453130822429881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7557679011566521438.post-64701351935488992682008-09-24T16:31:00.000-07:002008-09-24T16:31:00.000-07:00I'm so sorry you had to deal with those comments o...I'm so sorry you had to deal with those comments on top of you're loss. People just don't think.<BR/><BR/>(HUGS) ICLWthewormshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13304261293993902178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7557679011566521438.post-78972261325571046732008-09-24T12:47:00.000-07:002008-09-24T12:47:00.000-07:00This is a well written post. Love it. I wanted to ...This is a well written post. Love it. I wanted to punch that lady. Are you kidding me?! Grr. Hubby thinks I need to "stop being so sensitive". But I'm glad to know I'm not the only one out their who is. Even though I wish we all weren't here.I Believe in Miracleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07062124038472752680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7557679011566521438.post-29783709779312113702008-09-23T19:54:00.000-07:002008-09-23T19:54:00.000-07:00sorry for your loss---- I know how you feel about ...sorry for your loss---- I know how you feel about the comments- I think my "fav" is when people tell me well at least you know you CAN get pregnantMama Bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04459176957674069370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7557679011566521438.post-26611678360718542062008-09-23T18:10:00.000-07:002008-09-23T18:10:00.000-07:00People say the dumbest things when they are uncomf...People say the dumbest things when they are uncomfortable and are trying to make you feel better. My first child was born after multiple IVFs and then miraculously I got pregnant naturally in the spring. Unfortunately it ended up in a miscarriage. I think the most common thing I heard was how often it happened to other people or how someone they knew or some family member had also had a miscarriage. But none of those other people had trouble getting pregnant to begin with!!! That is what most people don't understand.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16454515801817880703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7557679011566521438.post-25481033161914243012008-09-23T18:01:00.000-07:002008-09-23T18:01:00.000-07:00I'm so sorry about your loss. I'm sorry you have t...I'm so sorry about your loss. I'm sorry you have to put up with insensitive remarks. ((Hugs)) Visiting from ILCW.Martha@A Sense of Humor is Essentialhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07129428477996644401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7557679011566521438.post-71856051787665191042008-09-23T12:36:00.000-07:002008-09-23T12:36:00.000-07:00The tasteless things that people say constantly sh...The tasteless things that people say constantly shock me. I'm so very sorry that you had to go through that.<BR/><BR/>I'm here from ICLW and I'll be back as your writing speaks to me.Aunt Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12146687582842259611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7557679011566521438.post-67162410480679260402008-09-23T10:11:00.000-07:002008-09-23T10:11:00.000-07:00People are so insensitive, especially in regards t...People are so insensitive, especially in regards to a miscarriage. I found that out the hard way to. I also found out how bad they can be about infertility.<BR/><BR/>With my miscarriage I was lucky to get one, "I'm sorry for your loss."<BR/>Everyone else pretty much told me to buck up, because it could have been worse... I don't even want to get started on that.<BR/><BR/>It's ignorance. Plain and simple. Sorry they were so cruel to you, that people are so cruel to all of us. It's not fair to suffer as we do, and then have people rub it in and belittle what we're going through. Not fair at all.AnotherDreamerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11487881766884178761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7557679011566521438.post-74537177312491159102008-09-23T09:39:00.000-07:002008-09-23T09:39:00.000-07:00Oh how frustrating! There's no way to say it other...Oh how frustrating! There's no way to say it other then it sucks! I hope you find peace in your heart. Shower time is ALWAYS my place for my thoughts to run wild. <BR/>Enjoy your day<BR/>-D *ICLW*Beautiful Messhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02425541240465474148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7557679011566521438.post-86987039396280509562008-09-23T08:49:00.000-07:002008-09-23T08:49:00.000-07:00Oh yeah - those comments! I don't know why it is s...Oh yeah - those comments! I don't know why it is so hard for people to put their brains and hearts on before they speak. <BR/><BR/>In a situation of pain like a m/c, when friendships are tested, and it becomes clear which friends are true friends and which are not, it does often bring to mind a doubt about our friend selection skills. But I guess we all have some that fit into each category!Nikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15469466620967385694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7557679011566521438.post-85654363855096541282008-09-23T08:17:00.000-07:002008-09-23T08:17:00.000-07:00Some people just don't get it. It's incredible wh...Some people just don't get it. It's incredible what people say with good intentions that make you want to hit them square in the face!! haha<BR/><BR/>Hang in there - the bitter days happen. We just have to get through them the best way we can!Tarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14683127027917195775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7557679011566521438.post-19729799979473784332008-09-23T05:43:00.000-07:002008-09-23T05:43:00.000-07:00Ugh! People just don't think.Ugh! People just don't think.Happyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14335137784267157167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7557679011566521438.post-16726311370570558532008-09-23T05:01:00.000-07:002008-09-23T05:01:00.000-07:00I am so sorry you had to deal with such insensitiv...I am so sorry you had to deal with such insensitive people. <BR/><BR/>ICLWSimply AnonyMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02451099553254296951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7557679011566521438.post-80807806041791435142008-09-23T04:55:00.000-07:002008-09-23T04:55:00.000-07:00I don't know why people say things like that. Init...I don't know why people say things like that. Initially, I did tell friends about our problems with IF. After a while, I realised, it was a huge mistake to do so. Babes thinks that I'm too sensitive sometimes, but I think it's cuz he's not IN the realm of how depressing things can get in the IF world that he doesn't understand.<BR/><BR/>There are no words to describe when one deals with the aftermath of a miscarriage. My friend just told me recently, IF YOU MISCARRY THIS CHILD, THEN AT LEAST YOU KNOW THAT YOU GOT PREGNANT ONCE. AND IF YOU CAN GET PREGNANT ONCE, IT CAN HAPPEN AGAIN. Of course, that got me riled up! WTF?! <BR/><BR/>Why would people want to say such things to "fix" someone's pain? Personally, I want somebody to acknowledge it. Tell me that it hurts, tell that it's ok to grieve. I hate it when people avoid the pain and "try" to make it better. Ok that's me rambling now.<BR/><BR/>I couldn't agree more. All we need is love. <BR/><BR/>ps In the bloggy world, I am known to have ADHD and I think, I've been known to have a potty mouth too.LOL. :)Just Me.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12940399833566474215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7557679011566521438.post-27280245866863726202008-09-22T23:36:00.000-07:002008-09-22T23:36:00.000-07:00ugh, the stupid things people say. sometimes ther...ugh, the stupid things people say. sometimes there's just a complete lack of understanding about the nature of the loss, and sometimes it's an idiotic attempt to make you feel "better" by diminishing the significance of the loss or trying to "fix" you (e.g., it happens all the time, you're still young, at least you can get pregnant, etc.) I've never heard of likening it to an abortion, that's a new one for me. geez.lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.com