tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7557679011566521438.post8217493135123743343..comments2023-11-03T07:59:43.899-07:00Comments on The Great Big IF...: Where Am I Going? Heck if I know...Shelbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06085283320884411888noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7557679011566521438.post-19077060609523577562013-02-08T08:24:47.957-08:002013-02-08T08:24:47.957-08:00I do have Mel's book...somewhere! Gah! I need ...I do have Mel's book...somewhere! Gah! I need to find it. I really thought since I've been there, done that and bought a whole closet of t-shirts, that I was a pro and didn't need any assistance anymore. So wrong I was!Shelbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06085283320884411888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7557679011566521438.post-88989585618305807112013-02-06T21:42:00.547-08:002013-02-06T21:42:00.547-08:00Do you have Mel's book (Navigating the Land of...Do you have Mel's book (Navigating the Land of IF)? I never dealt with that decision but her decision charts comparing the different family building paths based on different criteria that are important to you seemed like they'd be really helpful for someone in your situation.<br /><br />And I hear you on stealing from Peter to pay Paul, except that in my case I stole from Peter and Peterette to pay Peter and Peterette: we spent so much money bringing them into the world that we were pretty broke when they actually got here. Not having the money to buy them new car seats when they outgrew the infant ones seemed particularly dumb when we could have bought 350 of those car seats with the money we'd spent on treatments -- except of course without the treatments we'd just have a warehouse filled with car seats and 0 babies.Baby Smiling In Back Seathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06483533946303787478noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7557679011566521438.post-85548209010943998152013-02-06T18:22:07.035-08:002013-02-06T18:22:07.035-08:00Ah hun, it's a major decision and it's a h...Ah hun, it's a major decision and it's a hard one to make!<br /><br />I can relate to the guilt about "what if I'm taking away from V for a child that we'll never have" and the financial aspect rules us (and has always ruled us) more than I would have liked in our decision making process.<br /><br />The fact that you have, literally, one shot- whether adoption of IVF- has to make it even harder to decide though. I wish I had some insight or advice, but all I can do is say I'm here for you and I wish you peace in whichever decision you arrive at. It's a very tough situation.AnotherDreamerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11487881766884178761noreply@blogger.com