Thursday, July 31, 2008

Red Thread

I first learned of the red thread last month at my IF drop-in support group. Apparently, people wear a red thread around their wrists (and not just any red thread, a pomegranate-colored thread, #814 by DMC, to be exact). It's a lovely idea, really. For more info, read here.

So, anyhow, I purchased my thread immediately after learning of it, and I intend to wear it. First, I want to decorate it with cute beads and such, but once I do slip it on, one of two things are likely to happen:

a. People will think I'm into Kabbalah, which is fine, but I'm not.
b. People will ask me what it's for (as I know my shoddy craftsmanship will give away that this is a statement rather than an actual piece of jewelry).

So, what should I say? Seeing as how I'm still 'in the closet', I need to come up with something witty, while being minimally evasive. Any ideas?

I'll make sure to post pictures of my final 'creation'.


Anonymous said...

Hi Shelby:

I am watching your battle as a 'closet' infertile person with interest. It could be my age (almost 44) I feel no need to explain my situation. And that is after a lifetime of feeling I need to justify things to others. Am I missing something? I resent the fact that by virtue of having treatment I am compelled to tell my story to others. I don't want pity. I want results. I want a baby! Best wishes with your quest!

Shelby said...

I think a lot of it might be experience, but also the fact that IF does feel a bit 'taboo' (and treatment is at the heart of some controversy). It shouldn't be, but it is. I don't want to hide my treatment and my quest for a family, but once in the open, it is met with so much misunderstanding. I think the only way this will be remedied is by sharing. That is what will drive me to discuss my situation with others one day. Awareness. Education. And maybe through this I'll save someone else from the thoughtless, but oftentimes well-meaning comments that accompany that misunderstanding.

Thanks for stopping by!

Karen said...

I'd love to see a photo of your finished bracelet. I've always toyed with the idea of a making one, but I am woefully inadequate when it comes to anything remotely crafty. I flunked friendship bracelets and macrame in the early 80's.

I don't really have any suggestions about how to respond to questions about the bracelet. It's tough because in some ways just wearing the bracelet puts your infertility out there. I think fewer people will ask about it than you think. You could always say you wear it in support of women or friends who are struggling with infertility. You don't have to say you're one of them.