Sunday, August 23, 2009

Closet Door Sliding Open...

This post mentions: PG, bumps, rather extensively...

Yesterday I entered my long awaited third trimester. Crazy. And in just a few weeks' time (September 12th, to be exact) my friends and family will be joining me at an event I NEVER thought would take place: my baby shower. It is there that I have decided to do what I've for so long spoken about: come out! Whenever I think of this, I get this jaunty little ditty in my head:

"I'm coming out
I want the world to know
Got to let it show
I'm coming out
I want the world to know
I got to let it show"

That's right. I will come out as the flaming infertile I am and I will do so proudly. But because this event is a celebration of baby G and not an educational seminar on general infertility, treatments, or even our particular infertility, we wanted to share our story in a way that simply highlighted how hard-won and long-awaited he was, giving us even more reason to dance in the streets upon his arrival. Without this acknowledged, it would have never felt right. To share this, we created a photo book through i.Photo, but I've decided in order to not let this be the theme of the shower, we will do the following:

A. Not pass the book around until I'm opening presents (so any potential asinine comments, with particular emphasis on the ASS, will not come until the end at which point I may be subdued from any bodily harm towards them by cake).
B. Any particular questions about treatment, IVF, infertility, etc. will be met with an appreciation for their curiosity and then an invitation to share over lunch or coffee in a less public forum. While I'm coming out, my medical information is still not something for which I will be sending out a public service announcement.

I'm not actually foreseeing anything too stupid being said, but you never know what will fly out of people's mouths about this sorely seldom spoken about topic, especially since there are a few people that are particularly um, old (and you know they never censor anything) and a few who are, well, a bit narrow minded. Luckily, most of my friends and family are awesome enough to not go there and in fact, this will not come as news to about half of them anyway, despite my being a generally private person. So needless to say, I'm nervous, but excited.

So, here it is: The Story of Baby G. You MUST watch it full screen to read the text (it's much more of a story book than photo book) and definitely watch it in HD. It doesn't exactly flow like a slideshow as it is a book, but I think it tells our story in a very authentic, but brief way. Enjoy!

19 comments:

Sarang said...

Oh my gosh, this made me cry. So beautiful. What a tribute to little Baby G, who will undoubtedly be one of the Best Loved Babies on the Planet.

I am so proud of you for sharing your story with friends and family. I know they will be so touched. (And if there is a wayward comment at the shower, I will be right there with you!)

I love the line about a baby made in a dish being miraculous indeed.

I am loving your miracle! And can't wait to meet him in person!

Counting down the days with you...
with love.

Cassandra said...

The book is beautiful! A wonderful way to explain your journey to the guests, but also such a special keepsake for G someday.

I hope that you have a great time!

Caragh said...

The book is beautiful.
Congratulations.
Baby G is very blessed to be a part of your beautiful family.
Have a fantastic day

cheryllookingforward said...

That's an awesome way to let everyone know your story. I hope you open lots of minds and give some other girls hope with this.

ashley moon said...

Thanks for sharing. We need more people willing to speak out about this issue to educate people that this is a medical problem. Infertility is disease of the reproductive system that sometimes needs medical intervention. My husband and I went to Washington D.C. this past June to meet with our representatives to discuss infertility. It is not talked about enough. Praise God!

Michelle said...

What a beautiful story and an AMAZING gift that you are sharing with everyone. I think this is such a great way to share with everyone. I can't stop crying now. I am just so happy and excited for you!

Tara said...

OMG! That made me cry. That is so wonderful! I am so excited for yall!!!

Katie said...

That was so beautiful, touching and moving. It brought tears to my eyes- and I am sure there won't be a dry eye at your shower either. I would love to do something similar for our miracles. Thanks for inspiring me.

Martha said...

So beautiful!! What a lucky baby to have so much love and happiness to share with you and your family.
Thank you for sharing, dearest Shelby. You and your hubby are gorgeous!!

The Swann's said...

I do not even know where to start!!!! Tears. They come. How can they not? Such an awesome story... Especially the sentence about God wanting your thirst for Baby G to be so great that it is the longest and most refreshing drink ever!!!! The story book is absolutely amazing!!! To open up and share the story with those choosing to spend the day celebrating with you, is awesome! I absoultey love it!!!! Baby G is going to love reading this book as he gets a bit older as well! I hope you purchased a couple so he can have his own copy to tear, er, look at! :-) Congrats!!!!

Courtney said...

Shelby, I'm all teary! What a great book. It's a great way to share what has transpired for you guys over the last years. Great job and I hope the shower is big enough to blow the roof off the house!

Lost in Space said...

Beautiful, Shelby! If there is a dry eye at your shower, they are missing a heart. (-; What a perfect way to share what you have been through while keeping the focus on Baby G. Enjoy your day, girl!

Another Dreamer said...

I know I said this on Mr. Shelby's blog, but that video is so moving. So beautiful, what a perfect tribute.

Lorraine said...

Absolutely lovely. If the rest of your baby's life is documented as well as this he will have such amazing mementos!

I'm glad you have found a way to "come out" - the one woman I knew who was very open about her struggles made a huge difference to me. Regardless, I hope you have a fantastic shower!

Me said...

It's beautiful!

Margaret said...

That is so beautiful. It made me cry. I'm so glad you're coming out!! Really looking forward to seeing you next week. Oh and welcome to the 3rd trimester. It's a rollercoaster for me!!!
Margaret

Barefoot said...

I just viewed your slideshow, and it made me cry. What a beautiful tribute to what you've been through. Congratulations on your baby shower -- and of course, more importantly, on your upcoming arrival.

chicklet said...

Hmmm, I might do something like this for Tiny B, but just for him and us to have as a record of how this all really happened. Great idea.

itsazooaroundhere said...

I finally watched this when I had a moment to focus (and cry) - beautiful!! I'm still having mixed feelings about my own upcoming shower, and this is giving me a new way to look at it - as an opportunity to thank everyone that supported me over the past five years.

I hope you have a wonderful time at the shower this weekend. You deserve it so much!