Monday, June 11, 2012

The End to the Acupuncturist's Saga...

To get up to speed, start two entries below this one and work your way up. I guess it can be read as a thread of sorts. Anyhow, this is my final response to this lady by email. No, it is not at all healthy to wallow in anger (and believe me, I'm pissed), but I would have felt like letting sleeping dogs lie would have been doing a disservice to myself (for not standing up to this self-righteous douche bag) and future infertiles that happen upon her.




"Dear fucktard acupuncturist-

As my husband put it, 'worst response ever.' Actually, negligent and insensitive come to mind.

If I had realized that you had such a soap box that, if you look closely enough at your email, demonizes me throughout, I never would have stepped foot in your door. That is the antithesis of being a healer. I feel sick that I paid you money at all.

I can understand that being in your business you have to hold passionately onto eastern medicine alone, but that is where we differ. You see, I believe that neither western nor eastern medicine have all the answers, but I'll tell you that the former gifted me the greatest little boy imaginable. And when you feel the need to use my session to state sweeping conclusions that even science has not definitively come to (and please, do not argue this point as it is not THE point) when you are being paid to 'help' the very process you demonize, you are hitting below the belt and not being consistent. This has to do with my family and yes, I take this personally. You should have recognized this and if you had any social understanding, you would see that using me (who endured countless years of infertility and treatment) to evangelize and expound on the evils of IVF would only hurt, not help. In short, your words were not well received.

And for goodness sakes, speaking for future clients, please reconsider serving anyone with infertility who will or has approached medical intervention. When someone has reached this point in their journey, they are well educated and above all, heart broken. None of us wanted to be down this road and none of us need any further trampling on our hearts.

I am not AT ALL interested in maintaining this dialogue. Please do not respond. Your tales of being 'disturbed' by what I'm doing to build my family will not be helpful to either of us."

9 comments:

Melissa G said...

Nicely put. My version would have included expletives and threatened violence, but's just because I'm in a good mood today.

Don't forget to Yelp the crap out of that Woman.

Claudia said...

This whole thing is just insane. I just do'nt have any words that are sarcastic enough to even make any jokes about it. I'm so sorry she treated you like that, and can't believe she followed it up with such a crazy letter. Really glad you bit back and didn't just sit at home and cry (like most of us would have). Go, you. Here's to finding a new acupuncturist!!

Shelby said...

Haha Melissa...great minds thing alike. Except she's not on yelp. Am I pissy enough to add her and then yelp the crap out of her? Should I do it? I'm feeling like that would be pretty therapeutic.

Baby Smiling In Back Seat said...

Good for you. I was just coming to suggest a negative review too, if not on Yelp then anywhere else that she might be listed?

It's not just about making yourself feel better, but about sparing other infertiles from hearing her crap while they're trapped on her table full of needles.

Sarah B said...

Spot on response - just the right mix of high road and putting her in her place. I don't know how you couldn't read this and not take a good long think on it. Good for you.

Lorraine said...

This person has no business even agreeing to work with patients who are undergoing IVF. Whereas my beloved acupuncturist (also a nurse practitioner) takes the view that eastern and western medicines can be used together, and she offers her services in tandem with infertility treatments.

I think you should definitely yelp it, only to alert anyone else in a similar situation that it would be best to find a more sympathetic practitioner.

Sorry you had to go through that, anyone involved even peripherally with infertility patients should know well enough how sensitive these things are.

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Kate said...

My first response to her was "WTF????" Mr G was right - the worse possible response ever! However, I think you've responded to her very well. Sorry that you had to deal with such an imbecile!

Shelby said...

Here's the kicker: this lady was not a random choice. She was recommended by a fellow IFer who has been seeing her for YEARS. She had prepared her for multiple IVFs and never once alluded to her stance! Crazy!